Control Masquerading As Compersion

I cannot remember how old I was when I first heard about open relationships, but I do remember thinking for quite a long time that they must attract people with little to no self control. 

Of course there are people who move through their non-monogamy in this way, but the people who we know in this space are incredibly discerning and considered. Having ‘no control’ is never how I would describe them.

But what happens when we hang on to our controlling comforts in the space of non-monogamy?